Study Spanks Indulgent Grandparents

How many times have you heard someone say that it’s a grandparent’s right or duty to spoil and indulge their grandchildren?

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I heard it from one set of my grandparents growing up. They took me hunting and fishing and my step grandmother made the best fried chicken I ever had and sadly, I was never able to get her recipe from her. She also made the best fresh peach ice cream you ever tasted. She was a tiny woman, barely 5-foot-tall, but in my eyes, she was much bigger, especially the day she chased a black bear out of our campsite with stick. That woman wasn’t afraid of anything. One-time deer hunting, she spent hours tracking a wounded deer and didn’t give up when it got dark. We finally found her along the trail with her deer hanging in a nearby tree.

When my girls were little, their one set of grandparents loved to spoil them, giving them things that we as parents wouldn’t normally give them. My wife’s mom couldn’t stand to see them whine or complain so she would often give them things to keep the peace.

Now that we are grandparents, we find it easy to spoil and indulge our granddaughter, even though there are other times that we have to apply some tough love. Our granddaughter is often hungry and my wife (grandma) readily feeds her a number of different treats.

Our granddaughter is now 15 and on the edge of being obese, but it’s still hard for grandma to say no to a little treat here and there.

Are indulging grandparents really doing any damage by loving their grandkids?

According to a recent study conducted in Great Britain, yes, we are harming our grandkids’ health by indulging them the way we tend to:

“Indulgent grandparents may be having an adverse impact on their grandchildren’s health, say researchers.”

“The University of Glasgow study, published in PLOS One journal, suggests grandparents are often inclined to treat and overfeed children.”

“The study also found some were smoking in front of their grandchildren and not giving them sufficient exercise…”

“The researchers looked at 56 studies with data from 18 countries, including the UK, US, China and Japan.”

“The report focused on the potential influence of grandparents who were significant – but not primary – caregivers in a child’s early years.”

“The review considered three key areas of influence:

  • diet and weight
  • physical activity
  • smoking”

Are we really having that much of an adverse effect on those young ones we love so much? According to the researchers, yes, we are:

“In terms of both diet and weight, the report concluded that grandparents’ behaviour had an adverse effect…”

“Many studies found they were inclined to feed grandchildren high-sugar or high-fat foods – often in the guise of a treat…”

“The study also found that grandchildren were perceived to be getting too little exercise while under the care of their grandparents.”

In a world where obesity is at epidemic levels along with child obesity, we grandparents need to start loving our grandkids differently. If feel compelled to give them a treat, make it healthy like some fruit, carrots or celery stalks to chew on. We also need to get off our own duffs and do things with them to give them and ourselves some much-needed exercise. It’s okay to indulge them not so that it bulges them.

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