Dad Makes 16-Year-Old Daughter Shave Her Head After She Bullies A Girl With Cancer

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Everybody makes mistakes. Sometimes mistakes lead to consequences. Are those consequences always fair?

One father took to Reddit to explain the rationale behind forcing his daughter to go bald as a form of punishment, sending Reddit in an absolute uproar.

In the now-deleted Reddit post, the man claims that he has  a 16-year-old daughter, who he has full custody of, with an ex-wife.

The daughter was in trouble “for making fun of a student that lost her hair from cancer treatment,” the father said, “Including pulling off her wig.”

“She showed no remorse,” the father writes.

“She tried to excuse her behavior by saying the girl in question deserved it.”

Thus, the father gave his daughter an ultimatum — albeit an unequal ultimatum.

The first option for punishment was that the daughter would have all of her electronics thrown away — not taken away — but thrown away. Another condition of this punishment is that he would never buy her another electronic again.

“This was just to coerce her into choosing option 2,” he wrote.

The second option requires the daughter to “go to the hairdresser and get a cue ball haircut” and “as bald as the hairdresser can do.”

The two girls were in an argument.

The two girls had “some pre-existing bad blood” between the two of them and, according to the faither “were having an argument in class about stupid teenage gossip regarding my daughter’s boyfriend.” 

“At some point, the other girl mentioned how my daughter’s boyfriend was just using her for sex,” he continued, “And called my daughter a slut. “

Still, the father felt that his daughter’s behavior was unacceptable.

“Not how I’ve raised my daughter to treat people and it truly disgusted me to hear how she acted from her deputy principle,” he wrote — misspelling the word “principal.” 

His daughter agreed to shave her head.

His daughter agreed to shave her head and the dad forbid her from wearing wigs, insisting the punishment continue until her hair grows back.

“As you can imagine, everyone thinks I went way overboard,” the father wrote. Her mother was upset about the father’s decision to force their daughter to shave her head.

“Her mother went ballistic at me,” he said, stating that his wife was worried their daughter would become the target of bullying.

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“Kind of the point,” he said, justifying his actions, “Teach her some compassion.”

Some Reddit users thought that the punishment was too harsh.

“Your daughter is a bully because you are a bully,” someone commented on the father’s post.

People also felt that the punishment was a form of child abuse.

“I seriously doubt this is the first time you used abuse and humiliation to ‘teach her a lesson,” the same person said.

Another person commented, “There’s a term for what you did. It’s called child abuse.”

The same person wrote that taking away electronics or grounding the child would have been reasonable punishments.

“Disrespecting her right to bodily autonomy and humiliating her is not an appropriate punishment,” they wrote. “She’s unlikely to learn from it and if anything it risks perpetuating a cycle of bullying.”

19 thoughts on “Dad Makes 16-Year-Old Daughter Shave Her Head After She Bullies A Girl With Cancer

  1. I support the father. Children can be very cruel and hurtful. I was made fun of and bullied when I had to start wearing glasses. He wanted to teach his
    daughter a lesson about respect and compassion for all, especially for someone who has a physical or mental issue beyond their control. Hopefully the other girl’s parents had a discussion with her instead of just letting it go because they felt sorry for her.

  2. I believe the father was totally within his rights and was justified in his actions. So many kids today think just about themselves and feel justified in what they do to others. Her actions were totally out of line.

  3. Dad you did the right thing!
    Compassion and integrity are lacking in today’s society. This is a lesson your daughter will never forget. Also, she made the choice! Those that claimed child abuse don’t know didley about being responsible for their actions.

  4. The daughter will think carefully, when
    she has the opportunity to act as an adult, instead of a child. There are consequences when she chooses the wrong path. Humility will be learned and never forgotten.

  5. WOW…there still are some good parents out there!! You deserve a metal Dad, if more parents raised their kids like parents instead of best friends, the cool parents that are too busy to actually be parents and turn these little creeps into untitled worthless adults…you are the Man !!

  6. Good for you!!!. What she did was unacceptable period. The problem with kids today is parents are afraid to make their kids toe the mark. Hopefully your daughter will learn something from this lesson. Stand your ground. She’s old enough to understand her actions bring consiquences.

  7. Congratulations on being a dad instead of your daughters friend. After all her rights should stop at the beginning of that other persons body. She had no business taking her wig off. You go dad.

  8. Need more parents like him, good job. That’s. What I did to my. kids and they ended up being somone you could take home to mom, I’m so proud .

  9. Equal treatment will make the point better than anything. He taught his daughter the meaning of compassion for others, what happens when you bully others. If you don’t like the consequences don’t do the crime. Also, he gave her a choice. She chose this herself.

  10. The reporter wrote, ” ‘it truly disgusted me to hear how she acted from her deputy principle,’ he wrote — misspelling the word ‘principal’.” Sorry, but daddy used the right word, “principle”. As for the phrase, “deputy principle”, I suspect the reporter again erred. Final comment, I believe “the punishment fit the crime!”

  11. Good for you dad. You gave her a choice do it’s not bullying. Part of both punishments should have been a public apologies to the other girl

  12. I think this was the perfect punishment. If his daughter gets bullied, maybe she will think twice before doing this again. Bravo Dad!!

  13. This was not “child abuse” — it was consequences from a bad decision to bully the girl by taking her wig off. Kids today usually do not suffer consequences & have a rude awakening in the real world!

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